If people did not do silly things, nothing intelligent would ever get done. — Ludwig Wittgenstein

Looking out for number 12

«I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure: which is: Try to please everybody.» — Herbert B. Swope

«Live in moment, every day is the new beginning of life and every night is the end of life.» — Santosh Kalwar

«Humans should believe in the power of living for just one day, those who want to live for tomorrow are not living.» — Santosh Kalwar

Teachers are… what?

Givers. Compassionate. Driven. Future thinkers. Loyal. Kind. Devoted.

Actually, many people, regardless of career are all of these things.

I guess what’s been on my mind lately is how, if we are such givers and caring people, we are able to also still balance and look out for ourselves when we are better at looking out for others?

Which should be looking out for Number 1… but in reality is probably something like, Number 12.

Family and friends can challenge our trueness to ourselves. They can’t make us do anything, but through them we can make excuses and therefore do things that we would rather or ordinarily not do because we love them and sometimes it is hard to say no or not just put their needs above our own.

It is okay to put yourself out there to do something for someone. And, as my mom used to always say, to do something genuinely, you do it without expecting thanks. I agree with that. And I comply with that.

But I suppose what I am getting at here is that although we do things and try to do them in a self less manner, it can really still begin wearing on a person if they don’t stop and listen to their own needs. Do do do do do… for others – fine, but not without stopping and DOing for yourself.

What do you need?

A hot bath, with candles, tea and gentle jazz?

A spa treatment with a girlfriend?

To play a regular sport and get some exercise?

A night out listening to some live music, enjoying a bevy, and just simply being happy without thought of the future of work or others?

That’s what I needed last night and that’s what got me thinking… I need to do a few more things for me, just cuz I want to, not because someone else said so. And for me, not with my bestest friends, hubby or other (unless that’s what I want). Just for me. Not all the time, but sometimes. Something to look forward to and enjoy in a calm, because I like to and want to, type of way.

Music makes me happy, keeps me balanced and touches my soul. So, that’s one of my medicines for looking out for Numero Uno —- WHAT’S Your MEDICINE??

And perhaps, if I want to and when it feels right, I’ll start playing again and maybe join a little band… hmm 🙂

«Music in the soul can be heard by the universe.» — Lao Tzu

«The more you love music, the more music you love.» — Tom Moon

«If it weren’t for music, I would think that love is mortal.» — Mark Helprin

Awe yes,

«Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness.» — Maya Angelou

Comments on: "Looking out for number 12" (5)

  1. Awesome Tanya! I honestly believe that if you are going to be effective as a teacher, you need to put yourself AHEAD of school. I am in no position to say where you put your husband, family, kids, etc., but YOU need to be at least in the top 3. If you are not, you are miserable, and miserable people are not happy at what they do. Therefore you might be putting others ahead of you, but not giving them your best.

    I appreciate you and think that you do amazing things as a teacher. Never forget to take care of yourself 🙂

    Orders from your boss 😉

  2. Something to keep in mind for sure!

    On a side note, I love your blog design.

    • Thanks Royan for commenting. I think I like the simplistic design as well. I look forward to keeping up with your Spicey Learning Blog too.

  3. Knowing you, numbers 1 through 11 are well looked after then! That said, your message is something that all of us in the caring professions should take heed. You can’t be your best for your family, students and friends that you love if you don’t look after yourself. And yes, I, too, need to follow the wisdom of your post.

    • Thank you Carolyn and George for the comments. I know I was speaking for myself, though I was also thinking of many of our colleagues that often put themselves last which can work for awhile, but eventually bitterness and the like can start to set in. And, as you mentioned George, miserable people are not good for anyone. Anyways, I love where we work – everyone looks out for each other and now and then a gentle reminder from a friend to take some time can be heard.

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